As moms, the last thing we want in this world is for our babies to experience pain or struggle, right? It is so easy to fall into the trap of thinking that we can somehow control their experience if we just do or say all the right things as their mom. This might look like signing them up for all the activities, so they have opportunities for robust future, making sure they are getting perfect grades, eating all organic and non- processed foods, limiting their screen time, or pushing them to be the best version of themselves.
None of these actions are wrong. In fact, experts in the field of parenting would argue these are all right. My point is that it is not about what is right or wrong. It is about your relationship with your child, and sometimes this means tuning out the experts and tuning into what is really at the heart of the need to control. There is a line that can be crossed if we aren't careful. When our need and desire to control comes at the expense of connecting with them, this is simply a reminder and an invitation to us to let go and surrender in some areas.
Our role as their mom is not to control their experience; it is simply to be a part of it.
1.) Because first of all this is not even possible. Even if we said and did all the right things, our child may still have a terrible experience.
2.) And also, it frees us from all the added pressure to be a perfect mom and raise a perfect child.
When we follow 3 simple steps to overcome our desire to control our kids, we are left with simply getting to love and enjoy them!
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